I've come to believe that saying is too general. I can talk to girls. I can talk to the most beautiful woman in the world without feeling an ounce of intimidation... as long as I'm not trying to ask her out on a date, start a relationship, or even flirt with her. The intimidation factor only comes from the attempt to start a relationship. I feel completely clueless how to do that. Come to think of it, I really don't know anything about relationships.
I believe in moving towards goals slowly, not trying to overhaul one's life completely, which never works in the long run. Moving towards a goal slowly was how I became as in-shape as I am today. It is small habits that continue over the course of years that ultimately define who we are.
In that spirit, I have set a new goal for myself. For 30 minutes every day, I will do something that improves my relationship intelligence. I suppose the ultimate goal is to get married and have kids, but this has to be accomplished slowly, step-by-step. I need to start by being able to interact with people in this context. For too long, I have been obsessed with strength training and muscle building with a relationship as the ulterior motive without acting on that. Now is the time to start.
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